The Matcha Date and The Art of Investing in Yourself

"You are your longest commitment, might as well make it a beautiful one."

"Sometimes, the smallest sip of courage brews the biggest version of you." 

Hey Sunny, 💛

So, this week I’m planning to go for a solo matcha date, which I already teased on the pod (so if you’re not listening yet, you’re missing the behind-the-scenes of my questionable life choices and poetic chaos). Anyway, as I was thinking about it and reading online reviews saying matcha tastes like grass in liquid form, so I hesitated. I was like, “Do I really want to pay to drink something that might taste like my backyard after rain?”

But then I caught myself. How would I know if I actually liked it or not if I never tried it for myself? And that’s when it hit me, maybe this isn’t just about a cup of green frothy tea. Maybe it’s about something deeper: investing in myself.

🍵 Realizing That You Are the Investment...

"Your growth is the softest kind of rebellion."

When we hear the words invest in yourself, our minds immediately jump to money; buying a course, starting a business, getting that side hustle rolling, or maybe upgrading our skincare routine (which, honestly, I support fully). But what if investing in yourself is more than that?

What if it’s also about knowing yourself? About spending time doing the things that bring you closer to your essence. Whether it’s sipping a questionable drink, taking a solo walk, or sitting in silence to meet the person you’ve been running away from: you.

I don’t know yet if I’ll like matcha. Maybe I’ll hate it, or maybe I’ll fall in love with it and start calling myself a “matcha girlie.” Either way, I’ll have learned something about myself; my likes, my dislikes and the things that make my soul go mmm, yes.

Because investing in yourself isn’t just about financial growth, it’s also emotional, mental, spiritual, and even sensory growth.

🌸 Ways to Gently Invest in Yourself...

"Pour into yourself, even if it’s just a cup at a time."

If you’ve been waiting for a sign to start showing up for yourself, this is it; soft, golden and wrapped in self-love. Here are some gentle ways to invest in you (no spreadsheets needed):

1. Time — Spend time alone, on purpose. Not the doom-scroll-alone, but the kind where you sit at a café with your thoughts and let yourself be. Time is the currency of self-discovery.

2. Rest — Resting isn’t laziness. It’s your soul’s way of whispering, “Hey, I’m tired.” Let yourself pause before you break.

3. Curiosity — Try things without expecting perfection. That art class? That weird new recipe? That green tea that allegedly tastes like lawn? That outfit inspo you've saved on your Pinterest board? Try them anyway. Curiosity keeps your spirit alive.

4. Boundaries — Learn to say no. Investing in yourself means protecting your peace from things that drain you, even when it disappoints others.

5. Self-Reflection — Journal, talk to yourself in the mirror (yes, it’s not weird), or start a blog like this one. Get to know your inner world; it’s vast and poetic and messy and it deserves your attention.

💚 Building a Relationship with Yourself...

"Fall in love with the quiet parts of your own company."

When I started doing solo dates, it wasn’t just about taking cute photos or pretending I was the main character (although, I am). It was about building a relationship with myself. Learning what kind of silence I enjoy, what foods make me happy and what thoughts I don’t want to run from anymore. (Wanna read more about my solo date journey, you can find it under the blog titled: Solo Dates & Soft Bravery: Learning to Show Up for Myself)

We spend so much time trying to connect with others that we forget to nurture the most important connection, the one we have with ourselves. Taking yourself out, treating yourself gently, or even sitting with your discomfort. That’s how you start building that inner relationship.

And the beautiful part? The more you get to know yourself, the less you’ll seek validation from people who can’t even validate their own emotions.

Being your own individual means being okay with not fitting in someone else’s box. It’s saying, “I’m okay being misunderstood if it means I’m being true.” The more you discover yourself, the less you’ll need to chase approval, because you already have the only validation that matters, your own. (Don't worry, we'll talk more about individuality later so stay tuned)

☁️ Final Sip: It’s Not a Waste, It’s an investment...

"Even when it doesn’t go as planned, it still grows you."

So maybe I’ll sip my matcha and love it. Or maybe I’ll make a face so dramatic they’ll have to kick me out of the café. Either way, I’ll learn something and that’s the point.

Every experience, even the tiny ones, are seeds of self-awareness. They help you understand what feels right for you and what doesn’t. So, if you ever find yourself hesitating to try something new, remember it’s not about wasting money or time, it’s about discovering yourself.

If you want to know how my matcha date actually went, make sure to stay tuned to my podcast because, you know I’ll spill every sip and every awkward thought I had during it. 🌿

☁️ To My Sunnies ☁️...

"May you fall in love with becoming, over and over again."

To my sweet, sparkly sunnies, my little corner of soft hearts and cozy souls. 🌞 You have no idea how happy it makes me to know you’re here, reading my words, sipping your tea (or coffee... or matcha if you’re feeling adventurous like me). I wish I could hug you through the screen and tell you that you’re doing just fine, even if you currently feel like a sleepy cloud or a chaotic little tornado.

Here’s the thing: you don’t have to have everything figured out to be proud of yourself. You’re allowed to bloom at your own pace, take naps between your goals, and cry while doing your skincare routine (we’ve all been there, bestie). The world sometimes makes us feel like we have to move fast, but soft growth is still growth. Messy progress is still progress.

Invest in your peace. Invest in your joy. Invest in your little moments; the quiet mornings, the solo café dates, the “I don’t know what I’m doing but I’m trying” kind of days. Those are the days that build you gently.

And if you ever forget how special you are, remember this; you are your own safe place, your own muse and your own main character. You’re not behind; you’re just taking the scenic route. 🌸

So, stay, my sunshine souls. Subscribe to my blog for more soft rants and self-discovery rambles, listen to my podcast “Navigating Life Diaries” for the cozy chaos version of me and come say hi on Instagram @_.selfcare_diary (I promise it’s as soft and dreamy as it sounds).

Until next time, keep romanticizing your little world, one sip, one sigh, and one sparkle at a time. ☁️✨