The Date That Will: Loving Myself Loudly this Girlfriend's Day

"Love doesn’t wait at the door for someone else to bring it in—sometimes it blooms quietly from within."

Love isn't something I wait for—it's something I give myself, even when my hands are shaking.

Hey Sunny,💛

So, as you know, Girlfriend’s Day is coming up this Friday—and in the true spirit of romanticizing life and celebrating softness, I'm doing what I always do: showing up for me. Because the truth is, I’m my longest commitment, and no one will ever love me the way I can teach myself to.

If you’ve been listening to my podcast (especially the episode titled "The Episode That Never Made It and the Date That Will", you already know that last year was my very first-time celebrating Girlfriend’s Day on my own. I remember it like a heart-shaped charm in a jewelry box—simple, sacred, and sparkly in its own way.

I got myself a gift—a dainty jewelry set with a necklace, a pair of earrings, and a ring. But this wasn’t just any ring—it became my promise ring. I made a vow to myself that day: I will always be here for you. I will love you first. You don’t need to wait to be chosen—you already are.

That’s how a sweet little tradition was born.

I also took myself out to dinner that night. A solo dinner date, where I ordered my favorite meal and smiled at myself in the reflection of the window. No audience. No fanfare. Just me, loving me—as loudly or as quietly as I needed.

This Year’s Plan: A Letter, a Latte, and Love...

"I don’t need perfect plans; I just need my own company and the courage to show up for myself."

So here we are, a year later, and my soft girl tradition lives on. This year, I’ve already put together a gift hamper for myself. It’s wrapped and waiting. Inside, there’s a cute note I wrote to myself weeks ago—tucked inside like a little secret love letter. I’ll open it after my date, and I already know it will make me smile like a shy girl who just received flowers for the first time.

I’ve also picked out the perfect coffee spot—a tiny cozy café I discovered on TikTok. Think plants, soft indie music, warm lighting, and the comforting scent of espresso in the air. That’s where I’ll be this Friday. Sitting by the window, sipping my favorite drink, and watching the world go by like I’m the main character in a coming-of-age film.

And then? I’ll come home, light a candle, put on some lo-fi, and open my gift hamper—yes, the one I surprised myself with. I know, it may sound weird or “too much,” but here’s the thing: I’m allowed to be the love of my life.

Here’s Your Sign: Celebrate Yourself...

"You don’t need permission to be your own soulmate."

This post isn’t just a diary entry—it’s a gentle push for you, my dear Sunnies, to do something for yourself this Girlfriend’s Day. You don’t need a grand gesture or a big budget to make the day special—just a sprinkle of intention and love. Here are some soft, feel-good ways to celebrate yourself (and the love around you)

So here are some Girlfriend’s Day ideas just for you:

• 💌 Write yourself a letter or note and open it at the end of the day. Let your words be the hug you needed.

• 🎁 Create a little gift hamper with your favorite snacks, a book, skincare treats, or even a handwritten affirmation card.

• ☕ Plan a solo date—a cozy coffee shop visit, a homemade dinner under fairy lights, or a movie night in your comfiest pajamas.

• 👯‍♀️ Spend time with your girlfriends, family, significant other, or any loved one. Connection is part of self-care too and letting others pour into you can be just as healing.

• 🧘🏾‍♀️ Do a soft reset: journal, clean your space, do your skincare routine slowly—be fully present with yourself.

• 💐 Buy yourself flowers or pick a few wild ones and place them in a jar. Let beauty bloom where you are.

• 🎶 Create a little playlist that feels like a hug and dance around in your room like the main character you are.

• 📸 Start a tradition—even if it’s tiny. A yearly promise ring, a cake for one, a solo photo shoot… whatever feels like love.

🌙 To the Sunny reading this...

"Sometimes love means holding your own hand while your heart races."

I know I’ll be anxious that day. I still get nervous when I go out on my own. I still wonder if people are watching or judging. But guess what? I’m still going to do it—shaky hands, big heart and all.

Because I love myself too much not to.

And so should you.

You deserve to be celebrated—not someday, not when you’re in a relationship, not when you have more money—but now.Right here, in this version of your life. With whatever you have.

So go ahead and plan your soft girl solo date. Write the note. Buy the flowers. Take the photo. Light the candle. Laugh loudly. Cry if you need to. And when the day is done, remind yourself:

You did that. For you. And you deserve it all.

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Happy Girlfriend’s Day, Sunny🥰

With all the love,

Margie 🌸