Weathering My Heart: A Love Letter to Every Emotion

"A Soft Storm Named Feeling: Navigating the Weather Inside You"

“Maybe emotions aren’t storms to survive, but waves that teach us how to float.”

Hey Sunny, 💛

So, first of all, as I’m writing this, I’m dealing with the shackles of period symptoms. The cramps are throwing a mini rave in my uterus and I’m just the unwilling guest of honor. I’ll probably post this later than expected because as much as I want to be consistent, my body said, “sweetheart, you need to rest.”

Maybe it’s the luteal phase again, that time when I want to cry, eat, nap and overthink all at once. You know, when you look at the moon and somehow feel personally attacked? Yeah, that one. But we’ll talk about the cycles women go through and how to show yourself love during each phase in another blog, so stay tuned (and maybe subscribe while you’re here, wink wink).

Anyway, today we’re diving into the ocean of emotions, those strange little guests that knock on your heart’s door at the most random hours. Sometimes they bring soft flowers of joy and sometimes they just walk in wearing muddy shoes and make a mess of everything.

Earlier this week, I felt two of the muddy shoes' emotions, sadness and anger. A weird combination, honestly. I felt like I wasn’t supposed to be feeling them. But instead of pretending I was fine (which is my usual award-winning coping mechanism), I decided to actually face them. And let me tell you, emotions are not as scary once you turn on the light.

🌸 The Science of Feeling: What’s Actually Going on Inside You...

“The body keeps the feelings we never dared to name.”

Okay, let’s nerd out a little, because emotions aren’t just spiritual fluff. They’re biological symphonies happening in your brain and body.

Your amygdala detects something emotional, maybe a memory, a sound, or a text from someone who still owes you closure. Then your prefrontal cortex (the logical part) tries to make sense of it. Your heart rate changes, hormones shift and your body reacts before you even find the right emoji to describe it.

That’s why emotions feel so physical, a lump in your throat when you’re sad, butterflies when you’re excited, a burning chest when you’re angry. They’re your body’s language, whispering what your mind refuses to admit.

Suppressing emotions doesn’t delete them, it just stores them in your body as tension, headaches, anxiety, or insomnia. So yes, maybe you’re not “just tired.” Maybe your body’s been trying to tell you a story.

☁️ Feeling vs. Attaching: How to Hug Your Emotions Without Moving in with Them...

“Let emotions visit but never let them unpack their bags.”

Now that we've learnt the science behind it, let’s get one thing clear: emotions are visitors, not permanent roommates.

Feeling your emotions is like having tea with them. You listen, you understand, and when the tea is cold, you let them go.

Attaching to your emotions, though? That’s when you hand them your Wi-Fi password, let them rearrange your furniture and before you know it, sadness is in your pajamas watching Netflix, refusing to leave.

Here’s how I see it: emotions are messengers, not your identity. You’re not anger itself, you’re just feeling angry. You’re not sadness itself, you’re feeling sad. The moment you label yourself as the emotion, you stop living and start reliving.

So instead of running from emotions or letting them drive, just let them sit in the passenger seat for a while. Feel them, learn from them, then politely say, “thank you, but I’m taking the wheel again.”

🌷 Shame, Guilt and the Forbidden Feelings...

“There’s no such thing as an ugly emotion — only unloved ones.”

If I’m being honest, one of the hardest things about feeling deeply is the shame that comes with it. There are times I feel jealous and instantly guilty, like, why am I feeling this? I should be happy for them! Or when I get angry, I start to shame myself for not being “soft enough.” And sometimes, I even feel embarrassed for being so happy over small things, like romanticizing a cup of tea, a good playlist, or the sound of rain.

It’s wild, isn’t it? How we shame ourselves for being human.

When I was feeling sad and angry at the same time, I felt so bad because I thought it meant I wasn’t being grateful enough. I remember sitting there thinking, “You have food, a bed, a roof — why are you sad?” But here’s what I’ve learned, you can be grateful for your life and still feel what you’re feeling. Gratitude and sadness can co-exist; one doesn’t cancel the other out.

And sometimes, I just cry for no reason at all. Or crash out. Which at this point, feels like a hobby, an unplanned nap therapy session that my body schedules on my behalf.

But I’ve learned that emotions are not moral, they’re messengers. Jealousy, for instance, isn’t proof that you’re bad, it’s proof that you care, that something in you desires more. Anger isn’t always destruction, sometimes it’s a boundary screaming, “I matter too. "Sadness is your body whispering, “Let’s slow down. "And joy? Even in the smallest, simplest things, it’s a miracle you should never apologize for.

When I started noticing how much guilt I carried just for feeling, it broke my heart a little. But it also made me softer. Because learning to feel without judgment is learning to love yourself without condition.

But here’s a gentle truth I’ve learned: your emotions are valid, but they’re not an excuse to hurt others. You can be angry without being cruel. You can feel jealous without trying to dim someone else’s light. And if you ever find that your emotions made you act in a way that hurt an innocent person, take accountability. That’s what growth looks like.

In the same breath, don’t let anyone excuse their behavior just because they were “angry” or “hurt.”

Emotions may explain actions, but they never justify harm. We all have a responsibility to hold space for what we feel without turning it into a weapon.

Because at the end of the day, emotions are meant to teach you, not consume you and certainly not control how you treat the people who had nothing to do with your storm.

🌼 The Art of Letting Go: You’re Allowed to Feel and Then Move on...

“You are allowed to feel everything and still be okay. That’s your strength.”

Letting go doesn’t mean you don’t care anymore. It means you’ve made peace with what you can’t change. It’s whispering to your heart, “I’ve carried you long enough, you can rest now.”

Here’s a soft reminder:

You are not your bad day.

You are not your mood swings.

You are not your anxiety, your tears, your temporary fog.

You are the sky, and emotions are just weather passing through.

🌻 Gentle Ways to Hold Your Feelings...

💭 Journal without editing. Don’t write what sounds good, write what feels real.

🕯️ Cry if you need to. Tears are therapy in liquid form.

🌿 Move your body. Stretch, walk, or dance. Motion moves emotion.

🍵 Ground yourself. Sip tea, hold a warm cup, look at something green, remind your body you’re safe.

💌 Talk it out. A trusted friend, a therapist, or your journal, give your feelings a voice.

🌙 To My Sunnies...

“The moon doesn’t apologize for her phases, and neither should you.”

To my sweet Sunnies, I know it’s hard sometimes. I know it feels heavy, like you’re carrying the whole storm alone. But darling, you’re not broken for feeling too deeply. You’re blooming. You’re expanding.

There’s no shame in feeling jealous. There’s no sin in feeling angry. There’s no weakness in crying or in laughing at something small. There’s beauty in every shade of your emotional palette.

So next time you feel an emotion, don’t label it good or bad. Just sit with it, hold it gently, and ask: "What are you trying to tell me?”

You’ll be surprised how much peace lives on the other side of acceptance.

And if you take anything from today’s little heart-to-heart, let it be this: You don’t have to fix your feelings, you just have to feel them.

Until next time, follow me on Instagram (@_.selfcare-diary), listen to my podcast Navigating Life Diaries, and subscribe to our cozy little corner of the internet where we feel deeply, love loudly, and heal softly 🌷